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The Rising

Some years ago someone called me resilient, and I wondered why. I mean, I was the champion of struggling. Every other year or month it was one issue or the other… and I had moments where I felt like giving up… So I wondered what resilient had to do with me. I didn’t fully understand what it meant, so I looked it up.

This was what I found Resilient to mean:

-able to be happy, successful, etc. again after something difficult or bad has happened-

Being resilient doesn’t mean that you don’t struggle or never feel like giving up. The ability to heal, to bounce back… is the power of a resilient mindset.

The one thing that gives you strength to be resilient is when you truly believe that everything works together for your good. Even the terrible experiences, we take them as lessons to be better. 

The key to building resilience lies in the mind. If we can change how we perceive challenges and adversities that come our way, resilience will be born. It is born through your ability to believe (again), to hope (again), to dream (again)… to keep pushing through after you have been beaten, bruised and tossed to rock bottom.

When going through adversities, we need support and encouragement. However, you must be prepared to encourage yourself if there is no one to do that for you. Sometimes, people fail us not because they want to but because circumstances and situations are beyond their control.

If support systems fail, what do you do?…

To get through tough times, you cannot depend on one mechanism alone; you need different options and techniques for fighting through.

One other vital technique is encouraging yourself.

Here are a few pointers on how YOU can encourage yourself;

  • Celebrate the small wins: Don’t wait until something big happens before you appreciate yourself for a job well done.
  • Know your why and hold on to it: When tough times come, your ‘why’ is the force that keeps you pushing, it stops you from giving up, know it and let it live in your heart and mind.
  • Improve yourself: There is nothing better than investing in yourself and growing. I found that I value myself more when I learn new things and see personal growth. Google is free, YouTube is free… you don’t have to spend a lot to learn. Self confidence is essential, improve yourself and value yourself even more.
  • Remind yourself that feelings and seasons are fleeting: Whatever pain or disappointment you are feeling is only for a while… your present struggle is only for a while… no matter how long it takes, whatever negative situation you are dealing with will eventually give way for something new. It is the order of life, always remember that.
  • Control what you can and leave the rest to God (and the universe): The pressure to fix everything breaks the mind. The first step to overcoming is to accept you CANNOT control everything. You need to surrender to a higher authority. Whenever I remember I am not God over my life, I have hope, because there is someone greater than me that can take me beyond my human ability.
  • Cast away self pity and blaming others for your situation: Seeing yourself as a victim will always make you one. Feeling sorry for yourself will not change your situation. Taking charge of what you can do puts you in a better position for change. Practicing 1 to 5, is something we can do.

If there is one thing I learned from 2019, it is this;

if you don’t give up, the battle is not over.

Let the setbacks strengthen your resolve to make it, to survive, to become all that you dream of. So, if you fall, that is okay, rise again. As long as you have air in your lungs, rise again and again.

one of my favorite quotes to myself;

begin again..whenever, wherever, however… as many times as required… Begin Again.

Nobody is born tough, circumstances create that. When you go through hard times, you can choose to either come out more determined to excel or not come out at all. I hope you choose the former.

I have learned to strive using these words; Hope, Patience and Acceptance.

  • Hope – believing there’s a light at the end of the tunnel encourages you to keep pushing to get to that light 
  • Patience (with one’s self) – nurturing yourself with patience and kindness through the growth process is important. Growth isn’t the absence of failure. There will always be the part where you make mistakes… where you fail… Growth is understanding failure creates room for improvement. Setbacks aren’t always a destructive thing… Trials and failures are necessary for growth to happen. Be easy with yourself.
  • Acceptance: Knowing and accepting that majority of things in life are beyond your control. And the only one thing we can control is our perception and reaction to life.

And above all, is Love towards myself and life itself.


I hope we get to rise together from the ashes of this strange time…

So, soar as high as you can, above these adversities, be patient with yourself… we are all struggling… nobody has it together right now (nobody ever did)…

It is okay not to be okay, but it is not okay to give up.

Rooting for you as always…

All my love,

E

#100daysAtHomeToday.

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